"I'm Hopin That Aint Nobody Else As Special As [[You]] When I Say I've Been Disappointed Im Addressin A [[Few]] I Finesse Then I Groove While Most Of The 8 To 9's In My Past Now Get A Rating Thats Less Than A [2]" --Drake♥
I sat here today and Drake came through my speakers, but it was'nt "Best ii Ever Had"..."Uptown" or "Successful"...it was "Special"...if you don't know it I suggest you google it, download it or play the mixtape. I'll try to add it to my page for ya too. The quote I have above is a part from the song, out of the whole song this is the part that stuck to my brain like gum on shoes.
I don't know who the special [[YOU]] is just yet but I know when I get him he WILL be better than the rest I eva had. I have had 2 serious relationships in my life and another that I consider a "stepping stool" for heart ache...it was a highschool love and we ended due to priorites being tainted and our maturity levels...ones was quite higher than the other...and baby mine was through the roof...NEVA been one to toot my own horn but...BEEP BEEP!! I know my role and I play it well, I'm far from a "WIFEY" I consider those temps...they neva last long. I am a WIFE and I play my part for my man with or without the ring because thats me..if its in you its in you, if you only play that part with the ring, how will the guy decide if he really wants to put the ring on ya finger...I know if you not bringing anything to the table and I'm looking for a wife and your not displaying the qualities of a wife...Imma keep it moving. We as women sometimes for get what mama taught us, we so quick to bust it open and show our guy off that we forget to get to know him on a higher level. MOST of us date a guy for YEARS and we never meet his mother, family don't know what his favorite color is, biggest goals, fears or his background.
I take time to learn these things but not with every guy, thats why I HATE starting over and getting to know another man, your first real love usually sets the standards for the next man and unfortunately no one has been able to beat my top 2....SMH....and this is why I'm delayed on love. I know I know..comparing sets you back but hey I can't help it, my relationships were far from short term, I can't seem to beat the 2 year mark..but those we two great years...boiling down to four years total between the two relationships. I've grown over the years and I feel like its safe to say spite what I've been through I can't miss out on my blessing soooooo....(TAKES A DEEP BREATH) I guess I'll get back in this love bowl.....YEAH I SAID IT...
So here you have it...I Jamia Franchesca Gulley has offically said it...here on blogger.com "I'm feeling the need to get back on the map"...settle down and find the [1]..make a long story short I want to date again...(runs to wash out mouth from that statement I just confessed)
I chilled with and old time friend last night...watched some movies,laughed and chilled..and when the lights went out things got "cakish" and I felt so WEIRD!! I mean he didnt try to take me down or nothing it was qute cute if we were trying out for the sequel to "The NoteBook" but I could'nt get with it. In fact i was irritated as hell, the touch of his hand on mine made me annoyed, the innocent cuddling and his head resting on mine was just ugh..it sounds mean I know and I felt bad, but what you and [him] may FAIL to realize is I've been SINGLE for almost two years now,(august 16th to be exact) so certain things I'm no longer use to. Sure we all have our 1 thangs that we chill with call up and hang with but that whole staring into the eyes, holding hands and kissing with the eyes closed I can no longer get with.
Its like running cross country for years and then you stop and try to start again without training or running in YEARS...your not gonna do as well with it or be as comfortable as you were before...thats how I look at my love life. I have purposely took routes to miss that "L" word so trying to get back into it is quite uncomfortable.
As of now I think I'll just play it cool, I have over 15 numbers in my phone that I have pulled since the fireworks downtown...from EMU to deep west Detroit..I'm pulling em...BUT thats not my M.O not even a little, I have accepted friendships, went out on dates, accepted sweet lil text on the just because tip but I want that with my #1 and until I find him I'll just be sitting on the side line..chilling. Gotta cut this team short...this fast life ain't for me, so I'm back on my "me time" tip I got one guy who I really like.
ALOT...he just does something to me, we argue alot and I love it and so does he lol....stupid I know but then again I argue with all my male friends. I've been knowin him for a minute...but I don't feel he's what I need. We haven't talked too much lately because he's busy running up and down the game field for school and I'm working, living and growing. I can't sit still, thats just not me and as long as he has that ball to love, he can't focus on me...so ONCE again I'll be doin me until my day comes.
I enjoy time spent with him he gives me butterflies and I love his smile, conversations and attention. Time is never wasted with him but things happen so if we meant to be...WE WILL...if not we WON'T but I don't regret ANYTHING....
well ;-) this HAS to be thee LONGEST blog I have written....oh well it was long over due...so ENJOY!!